Our listeners tell of joys and trials of living in multigenerational households

| | Comments (0) | TrackBacks (0)

By: Jess Gitner
April 27, 2012

Our listeners tell of joys and trials of living in multigenerational households

Morning Edition is in the midst of a special series called "Family Matters: The Money Squeeze." It profiles three families struggling with the complexities of living in multigenerational households and facing difficult financial decisions: how to afford care for an elderly relative while paying for college and saving for retirement.

This look at financial literacy amid the challenges facing families has prompted a wave of response from our radio and online audience. On e-mail, Facebook, Twitter and other social media platforms, many of you have shared your personal experiences about the emotional and financial stress of acting as caregiver to your parents, grandparents, siblings and children.

Yoshiko Okuyama of Keaau City, Hawaii, sent in a photo (above) of her 20-year-old son and her 82-year-old mother. After Yoshiko's father passed away in 2000, her mom came to live with her and her family. "Being an only child, I decided to care for her where I live. I also made that decision hoping that being close to an elderly person, especially his own grandmother, would present a positive impact on our son's development ," she says.

Michelle Peltier, 40, sent us a photograph of her son and her 64-year-old mother, who has M.S. and dementia. She wrote:

"In January, I went back to work fulltime and it was necessary to move her into a nearby assisted living facility. There are never enough hours in the day for me to feel like I'm present enough for her, the baby and my husband. I know many, many families are dealing with the needs of the generations on either side of them, but I wonder if there's ever any way to do it without compromising on everybody's needs."

Cindy Scott Day has a daughter with a disability. She writes:

"I thought my job would be over by now, as she just turned 18 and graduates high school in a year. But that's probably not going to happen. My 401(k) has been pilfered badly, and we live very, very modestly, and I worry about the future."

Renee Squyres-Houston of San Antonio, Texas writes:

"My husband and I moved in with his grandparents to take care of them. Otherwise, they would have had to sell the home they had worked so hard for to pay for assisted living. His grandfather passed away a few months later, but I took care of his grandma for five years. She passed away two years ago, but we are still recovering financially and emotionally from the toll it took."

Many of you have also written about the rewards of caregiving.

Terri Moyle writes:

"This [series] made me cry as I remember the years of caring for my mum, how hard it was and how cross I would sometimes get with her when I was tired. But most of all, I cry for how much I miss and love her now she has gone."

Marsi M. writes:

"Financially it was difficult, but we were blessed with family and friends who assisted us. I am grateful I was able to care for my mom, to spend time with her and to honor her wishes that she stay in her own home."

Carla Seif writes:

"I took care of my sister for the last 1 1/2 [years] of her life, then 8 months later took care of my mom for the last month of her life. Since 2008, I have been [the] main caretaker for my father and will be 'til the end. [I] also help out a neighbor who had a quadruple bypass that went haywire... [It's] hard but I wouldn't change it."

In coming weeks, Morning Edition will continue to report on the three families living in multigenerational households. Senior Business News Editor Marilyn Geewax will also try to answer some of your financial questions relating to elder care and caregiving.

In the meantime, we want to keep hearing from you. Do you live in a multigenerational household? Share your candid photos and stories with us on Tumblr or #nprfamilymatters on Twitter and Instagram.

0 TrackBacks

Listed below are links to blogs that reference this entry: Our listeners tell of joys and trials of living in multigenerational households.

TrackBack URL for this entry: http://blogs.cfed.org/cgi-sys/cgiwrap/cfed/managed-mt/mt-tb.cgi/4529

Leave a comment

About this Entry

This page contains a single entry by CFED published on May 3, 2012 6:19 PM.

US applications for unemployment aid drop sharply, a good sign for future hiring was the previous entry in this blog.

Congress needs to decide how big a "small" business is is the next entry in this blog.

Find recent content on the main index or look in the archives to find all content.